Man slams wife for not putting stepson in will – but some call him ‘gold digger’

Drawing up a will can often cause tension and drama among the closest of family members with arguments over who gets what often ruining relationships.

In one instance, a man was shocked at some of the decisions his wife made for her will, but when he shared his story on the internet, users were furious at his behaviour.

Reddit user noobstep12 found himself in this situation, and took to the popular subreddit r/AITA, which stands for (Am I the A**hole) for reassurance.

Users share their experiences on this subreddit asking for advice and seeking to know whether they made the right decision in that scenario.

He said: "My wife and I have three kids, all from prior relationships. She has a preteen boy and girl, I have a toddler son.

“All live with us full time. I've just started making a will because I just haven't thought about it yet. She however has had one since her late 20s, since her first husband passed. We've been friends since before she met her husband.”

The man explained how he wanted his will to reflect the entire family, with an equal split three ways, but it turned out his wife had other ideas.

He continued: “I would hope that if I died, my son would get to stay with his siblings and we would pick a guardian that would take all three.

“My wife makes double what I do and got some money when her first husband died, but I assumed we were all a family by now and things could be equally shared.”

It would seem his wife didn’t agree after sharing her plans of splitting her will two ways between her and her biological children, with the trustee being the kids’ paternal aunt.

Shocked and confused, the man said: “She doesn't have any plans for keeping the kids together. The two oldest would go to her late husband's sister and her husband, who don't want kids of their own but love their nieces and nephews.

“My son can just…go be homeless I guess. They could even go to them if just my wife died.”

“I'm horrified by this. We're a FAMILY. My wife isn't interested in changing this.”

According to the man's wife, it's hard for a girl to not have a female figure, and they live closer to a school with a boarding option that her late husband and her would want them to go to.

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“As to being a family, my wife cynically asked for how long. People are always going to hold their interests and those of their blood above everything else, and literally, anything could happen if she doesn't do the most to protect her children.

“I could meet someone, or have more kids, or just disagree with one of them when they got to the wrong age and screw them over.”

He concluded: “Now, I know that she was booted out of her adoptive parents home at 14 when they had a miracle baby.

“There was supposed to be 10k left for her from her biological parents that her adoptive parents stole because they legally could but this isn't that.

“We're actually a family, and my wife is hard at enforcing lines that don't need to be there.”

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This seems like a tough situation, which is why the man asked the internet for their opinions on the matter.

Is he in the wrong? It was time for Reddit to decide whether he was the a** hole or not.

Here is a handy AITA key:

You're the a** hole (& the other party is not) = YTA

You're Not the a** hole (& the other party is) = NTA

Everyone sucks here = ESH

No a** holes here = NAH

Not enough info = INFO

It would seem that the most popular response was YTA, much to the man's disappointment.

One Reddit user said: “YTA. Slight difference is that a proportion of your wife’s estate came from her late husband, the father of her children.

“In a case such as this I would think it perfectly natural that she would want his children to benefit from his portion of her estate.”

Another agreed: “YTA. She’s doing what’s best for her children and she’s right to feel that way. She has no idea what could happen if she died first; you could remarry someone cruel, you could ignore her children, you could spend their inheritance.

“The fact that your biggest concern is getting your son his chunk of a dead man’s money is very telling. I can tell that you see her as a payday and I’m sure she can see that too.”

Other users labelled the man as a ‘gold digger’, awkward.

What do you think? Is this man in the wrong for being upset at his wife’s choice to keep his son out of the will? It would seem that the internet has spoken.

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