Mum fears her heart won’t ‘ever be big enough’ to love her second child as much as her first – and parents are praising her honesty

A WOMAN has spoken honestly about being a mum for a second time and admitted she was scared her heart wasn’t big enough to love the new baby like the first.

Kendra, from the blog Daylight to Dark, shared a heartfelt post about her worries of diving her time and love between two kids – and people have praised her honesty.

She said her second pregnancy felt extremely different to the first, and wrote: “there was no gender reveal party. No elaborate showers".

Kendra shared on Facebook: “You were second. Not in my heart, but one did come before you in time. Yes, with you, it was different. There was no gender reveal party. No elaborate showers.

"We didn't read all the books or check the apps every week to see what vegetable you measured up against.

"I didn't take as many photos, didn't spend every waking moment thinking about the way your hair might curl up on the ends one muggy summer day.

"My mind was busier; my body more tired."

Kendra spoke candidly about how the worries of being a first-time mum soon faded, and her main fear was “that I wouldn't be enough for you.”

She said: “I wondered how on earth my heart could ever be big enough, how I could manage to divide my time and energy and love equally enough.”

The mum said that as soon as her second child arrived, all of her worries left her.

She said: "And that was it. I was yours. A mum of two. A family of four. And oh, sweet baby, the lessons you've helped me learn. You've taught me how to juggle 1,000 balls without completely melting down.”

You were second. Not in my heart, but one did come before you in time. Yes, with you, it was different. There was no gender reveal party. No elaborate showers.

Kendra said her second baby has taught her that “love covers all gaps” and she has learned how to “slow down”.

She also said she has a confidence that she never had with her first pregnancy.

She ended the post: “But more than anything, my love, you taught me that a heart is absolutely limitless in size, and that love is the antidote to fear.

"So, it's true. You didn't make me a mother. But you sure made me a better one."

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Since uploading the post, it has struck a chord with online mums as it has received over 21,000 comments.

One mum wrote: “I'm BAWLING. Beautiful words, beautiful sentiment, beautifully correct. #momoftwo."

Another added: “This is PERFECT. I love this so much.”

And one woman commented: “Only a loving mother can relate to this ! I’m a mother of 3, grandmother of 8 and a great grandmother of 6 . My heart just keeps filling with love for all of them . God has blessed me with so many to love .”

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