I didn't have sex for months after giving birth because my partner's penis felt like a cheese grater

NEW mum Chessie King, 28, opened up about her sex life after giving birth – and she was VERY honest.

The influencer and her partner Mathew, welcomed their baby girl Auraelia, who she calls "Rae", by caesarean in June.


Chessie took to Instagram to open up about their post-baby sex life and by the sounds of things, it's been slow progress restarting the action between the sheets.

In an Instagram post that has now amassed more than 60k likes, she said: "LET’S TALK ABOUT SEX (after a) BABY⁣.

"On the day of my caesarean, before we’d even met Auraelia, the midwifes asked us what contraception we were planning to use…⁣

"For the first 6 weeks, sex was number 123 on my list of 124 things. I couldn’t even change my own giant pads myself let alone contort my sawn-in-half body into any page of the karma sutra.⁣⁣

"On Sunday I asked if you felt like there was enough conversation around sex after a caesarean & 97% of you said no.

"I can only speak from my own experience so your sex chronicles, vaginal birth AND sun roof birth are more than welcomed.⁣"

The brave influencer then went on to explain her own experiences with Mathew.

⁣She said: "We tried at 7 weeks, the day after I got ‘my six week sex sign off’ & I was absolutely not ready.

"There’s nothing more encouraging than hearing “ouuuuch, your willy feels like a cheese grater’⁣ (I had apparently bought condoms that were pretending to be hedgehogs – ribbed).

"We tried again at 8 weeks, it still felt like I’d been glued shut so Mat bought a neon yellow bottle of ‘ylang ylang massage lube’ which did nothing but make the room smell nice.

"Then we tried at 10 weeks & Hugo decided to take a front row seat, Rae woke up to cheer us on in her crib a metre away 3 minutes in.

"So, 4th time lucky, at 11 weeks we finally managed something that felt as close to sex as possible & here’s a few things that we learnt!⁣"

"Laughing really helps, talking to each other throughout/cheering each other on helps.⁣

"Pretending it’s the first time you’ve ever had sex with each other helps.⁣ Lube helps.⁣ Going super slow helps.⁣

"Silky soft ultra thin condoms help (stay away from ribbed hedgehogs).⁣ Time really helps.⁣ Experimenting with basic positions then levelling up to spicy ones when you’re ready helps.⁣ Please share yours."

Fellow Instagrammers flocked to agree with her candid assessment.

One said: "Yes to the cheese grater thing."

While another joked: "Im *checks notes* 8 years post c section and am still too tired to have sex JUST JOKING SORT OF."

And a third said: "This is such an important conversation to have! Thank you for sharing with us."


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